In ancient Kemet, China and Hindustan (India) the erotic was a natural part of daily life. Sexual expression was meant to enhance ones spiritual development and thus ones humanity. People recognized the relationship between this sacred life force, artistic creativity and abundant vitality. These interconnected themes are all over their art, poetry, and paintings.
I’ve been exploring these themes in my own life for a while and wanted to share a few pleasure-based practices that helped me manifest more money, more time and more energy. When we anchor into our Energy Trifecta—the sacred, sexual, and spiritual currents that fuel our life force—we begin to understand that abundance is not a performance or a prize. It’s a presence.
So many visionary leaders are burnt out, blocked, or quietly battling imposter syndrome—not because they lack talent or ambition, but because they haven’t done the inner healing work to feel safe receiving, resting, or being fully seen. When your nervous system doesn’t trust abundance, your brilliance stays dimmed.
If that resonates, it’s time. Let’s reconnect to your sacred, sexual, and spiritual life force so you can lead from wholeness—not hustle.
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Let us begin with: what is the erotic?
The erotic is a measure between the beginnings of our sense of self and the chaos of our strongest feelings. It is an internal sense of satisfaction to which, once we have experienced it, we know we can aspire… the erotic is not a question only of what we do; it is a question of how acutely and fully we ca feel in the doing.
Andrea Loude, Sister Outsider
My summary: Caring how I feel is the single most powerful practice to transform my life.
My dance with the erotic has taught me what deep satisfaction feels like in my body. And once I knew that experience I wanted more of that feeling. Not that I used sex for that goal, but I sought to feel that deep level of satisfaction from all that I experienced in life: in motherhood, career, creativity and physical erotic play.
Redefining satisfaction as a bodily sensation and spiritual practice reoriented my life.
Learning how to discern my emotional experience and making choices to enhance what feels good is a revolutionary act in a modern society that seeks to control through fear (especially for those of us born into historically marginalized identities). This practice applies to commerce, creativity and erotica.
Does this job nourish and enhance my life or is it draining and stressful?
Is this relationship uplifting and inspiring or am I connecting through our lowest common denominator?
Am I creating this art out of my expression of love for life or out of desperation for attention or sales?
Caring how you feel is a practice of self-honesty. You must bring honesty along if you seek to answer the question: what feels good to me? Once the portal is open, there’s no going back.
Ok so let’s dive into those pleasure practices.
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